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Tips for Speaking to Your Neighbour

This is useful advice to help you approach your neighbour about a high hedge.

Choose a convenient time

  • Be calm. Have a word with your neighbour before you get angry or upset.

  • Think beforehand about what you want to say. Be clear and precise about your view of the problem.

  • Think about how you would like to be approached by your neighbour if they had a problem to bring to you.

  • Don’t be reluctant to say what it is that has upset you, but remain calm and friendly in your speech. Do not exaggerate the problem.

  • Don’t forget to mention some of the positive things your neighbour does.

Be patient and listen

  • Don’t be quick to jump to assumptions about what has happened

  • Give your neighbour plenty of time to express their views and try to understand what they are actually saying. Don’t assume you already know what they are thinking.

  • Be careful not to bring in matters that are not relevant to the immediate problem –e.g. how your neighbour held a noisy house-warming party ten years ago but you didn’t like to say anything at the time.

  • Never shout, use bad language or threaten retaliation.

  • Be prepared to accept differences in attitudes and life-styles, but be firm about things that cause you inconvenience or distress. Let your neighbour say what they think but don’t be afraid to make your own views clear as well.

  • Bring all the relevant issues into the open from the start. Don’t keep the awkward bits hidden, or your neighbour may think that it is less of a problem than it really is.

  • Take the view that together you can sort the problem out and still remain on good terms. Be open to suggestions as to how the problem may be resolved.

Live and let live

  • Be prepared to accept differences in attitudes and life-styles, but be firm about things that cause you inconvenience or distress. Let your neighbour say what they think but don’t be afraid to make your own views clear as well.

  • Bring all the relevant issues into the open from the start. Don’t keep the awkward bits hidden, or your neighbour may think that it is less of a problem than it really is.

  • Take the view that together you can sort the problem out and still remain on good terms. Be open to suggestions as to how the problem may be resolved.

  • Modified: Apr 18, 2008 10:44:26 AM